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Am I in an Abusive Relationship?

If you feel as if your partner or loved one is becoming abusive, there are a few behaviors you can look for.  If you’re experiencing one or more of them, please don’t hesitate to call us to talk about what you’re experiencing.

Does anyone ever…

  • Hit, punch, slap, kick, shove or bite you?
  • Threaten to hurt you or your children?
  • Have sudden outbursts of anger or rage?
  • Behave in an overprotective manner?
  • Become jealous without reason?
  • Prevent you from going where you want?
  • Destroy your personal property?
  • Deny you access to family assets such as bank accounts, credit cards or car?
  • Control all finances and force you to account for what you spend?
  • Force you to have sex or perform sexual acts against your will?
  • Insult you or call you derogatory names?
  • Humiliate you in front of others?
  • Turn minor incidents into major arguments?
  • Threaten to “out” you to family members, employers, community members, or others?
  • Say that no one will help you because of your sexual orientation?
  • Abuse or threaten to abuse pets?
  • Tell you that you can never do anything right?
  • Tell you that you are a bad parent or threatening to harm or take away your children?
  • Prevent you from working or attending school?
  • Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
  • Control who you see, where you go, or what you do?
  • Threaten to commit suicide or threaten to kill you?
  • Drive recklessly or dangerously when you are in the car with them?
  • Act like the abuse is not a big deal, deny the abuse or tell you it’s your fault?
  • Punish you by withholding affection?
  • Cause you to question your own sanity?
  • Accuse you of cheating?
  • Max out credit cards in your name without your permission?
  • Use funds from children’s savings accounts without your permission?
If you answered ‘yes’ to even one of these questions, you might be in an unhealthy or abusive relationship.  While this is a long list of abusive behaviors, it is not all inclusive.  There could be other behaviors that are abusive.  If you have concerns about anything, please call us at 1.800.382.5603.