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Domestic Violence Against Men

The issue of domestic violence is not exclusive to women and girls.  Research states that 1 in 4 men have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner.

So, why don’t we hear about male victims as often as we do women?

Simply put, men are less likely to come forward about their abuse than women and a lot of that has to do with the gender norms that have been placed upon men.  Let’s look at some of the additional challenges men face when considering whether or not to seek help.

Men are taught that expressing themselves, especially as a victim, isn’t okay.

This gender stereotype can have serious consequences on male survivors of domestic violence. Not only does a man not receive help, but psychological damage is done. We have often heard from our male survivors that they feel emasculated and weak for not being able to stop the abuse.

Men fear they will not be believed or that their claims will not be taken seriously.

As advocates, we have met male survivors who felt discouraged telling their stories.  They had confided in others but were told that they were overreacting. This too has psychological effects on a person.  Men then start to diminish their own abuse and fear that they won’t be believed in the future.

The bottom line is that violence and abuse are not gender specificWe know this all too well to be true. We serve women AND men who are experiencing domestic violence.  Men, we believe you and we want to help.  We’re here for you 24/7.  1.800.382.5603 or text IOWAHELP to 20121